Do You Really Teach Relationships In Five Minutes?

I heard you say you taught relationships in five minutes, do you really have a five minute relationship course?
-Tammy G.

Tammy, that one came back to haunt me. I have people ask it from time to time. It isn't actually a course and it doesn't cover everything, but yes, I can teach you the basics in five minutes in person. Not sure how long it takes in print, but here goes.

Napoleon Hill said this about relationships: "All you have to do is imagine everyone is a relative about to kick the bucket and you stand to get a million dollars if you can just manage to stay in the will!"

A lot of relationship problems come down to two things, we don't do what we know to do to have good relationships and we don't make having good relationships a goal.

For everything from car care and health care to child care and hair care we need people and we need good relationships with those people.

Try this for better relationships.

1. When you first get out of bed imagine a world without people. How long could you survive? Think of all of the things you need people for. Solitary confinement is considered the worst punishment in prison with prisoners often inuring themselves to be taken to treatment where they can interact with other people and avoid being alone.

2. Make it your goal to have a good relationship with everyone you meet. Consider it practice. You never know when you will need them or the people skills you develop with them.

3. People are more interested in themselves and the things that matter to them than anything else. If you want to impress someone, ask them questions about them and their life and then listen.

4. In a damaged relationship actions speak louder than words. The bridge for verbal communications may be down, but the  bridge for communicating by actions seldom closes. A man contacted me and told me divorce was unavoidable, he and his wife hadn't spoke to each other for a week. I told him to quit trying to talk and start taking some action. Take her a glass of water and don't say a word and just walk away. Then buy her a card. Do little things and don't say a word.

The morning of the fourth day she spoke to him and said she didn't want things this way anymore. That was two years ago and I saw them last week and they are doing fine.

Hope this helps!

Scott Hogue CChH